6/12/2005 12:34:00 AM|||Jonthon|||

My family is really messed up. Did I mention that?

Recently, my grandma has been adversarial toward my father. This is sort of misleading, because my biological grandmother actually died before I was born. But Velma has been my grandpa's girlfriend since before I was born, and for monetary and benefits reasons, they just choose not to marry. Recently, they moved out to Colorado to be nearer to her family. Last time I went to Colorado, Velma actually had the nerve to say to me, "Doesn't he have a belly on him?" gesturing toward my Dad. I said "excuse me?" and she said "your father." I responded that I didn't know what she was trying to say, and she turned around and left. Anyway, on this particular day she hung up on a social worker my dad had arranged to have visit my grandpa, and as my Dad has Health care POA and was just trying to help, he got mad. My Dad has a temper, so when he called, he finally just flat-out told Velma he didn't like her. She reciprocated. Then my Dad said he was going to come out there and bring his Dad back home. She continued to rip into him until he said "fuck you" and hung up. I then called Lindell (Velma's son) who talks way too much. He also had plenty of bad things to say about the relations, bet was very skillfully managing the conversation. And so was I.

So today, my Dad calls with my on the other extension. Most of the time when my Dad calls to talk to his own father, Velma will listen in and just burst into the conversation at some point. So this time, when she started ripping into my Dad, I interrupted her to ask why she felt the need to put distance bwteen my dad and his father. Velma was PISSED. After she called my Dad "the lowest of the low," he went off, told her to burn in hell, and hung up. I walked around the backyard while talking to her and my grandpa for about another 2 hours. During this conversation, I repeatedly voiced that I thought there was distance in the family, that this bothered me, and that I just wanted what was best for papa. The conversation generaly revolved around her saying my Dad didn't love his own father, and that velma knew that because my Dad didn't show his love like she did (?). Eventually, Velma forced the conversation to a point at which, after already having told me off and hung up on me several times, she told me that SHE DID NOT LOVE ME. I was amazed. I asked her why she would say something like that, and she started listing off things that my dad had supposedly done. I responded by telling her that she was my grandma, papa les is my grandpa, and my dad was my dad, and we needed to act accordingly. She then responded, to my jawdropped amazement, "I'M NO RELATIVE OF YOURS." I explained that I had always thought of her as my grandma since the day I was born. She responded by informing me that we were not blood relatives, and "YOU CAN THINK WHATEVER YOU WANT, BUT THAT'S NOT THE CASE." But the worst part was yet to come. When I asked Papa if he saw me point about Velma trying to drive a wedge in the family, he said he didn't see it that way. He then said the best thing we could do was to stay out of it. So Velma was saying that our doing nothing for him proved we didn't love him, and also guiding him to say that we should do nothing. I sincerely believe my grandfather is being mindfucked. As I would soon find out, most of my family members have ALWAYS HATED Velma, and that's a good part of the reason my family was sort of distant.

I hope Velma burns in hell. We won't be letting her enter my grandpa's funeral (which WILL be in Collinsville). And when she tries, we're having her arrested. The family will not object, and my Dad does have Power of Attorney. Fuck you bitch, give me my grandpa back.

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